About a month ago, I received a copy of "To Be One" and wanted to watch it with my family for quite a while before we actually had time to. Then I started this review right away, but got busy with trying to get ready for my friends' wedding, so that I'm just getting this posted now~
I'd like to share my thoughts here with you (and some of the conclusions that my family came to after discussing the movie for an hour or so after it was over!)
This movie tells about 3 couples' journeys to the marriage alter--the struggles they had and the joy and peace that they found. The 3 stories are quite different from each other and are each special in their own unique way.
I don't wish to spoil the stories for you, (in case you ever have the opportunity to watch this film,) so I'll just give a brief overview... I should probably mention that our family has come to see Betrothal as the most Biblical route of getting into marriage, but as we haven't had any experience with that yet, it was helpful to see the steps in these couples' journeys.
The first couple called their relationship before marriage "Courtship," although they followed a lot of the guidelines that we would like to use in Betrothal. For example, there was a lot of parental involvement (both of the young people were wanting it to be that way) and a lot of prayers said on all sides. One very touching scene in the movie was a video clip from Jeff and Ashley's engagement party... Jeff washed Ashley's feet, (just as Jesus showed that He was a servant by washing His disciples' feet ) and, when it was Ashley's turn to wash Jeff's feet, she did so and then proceeded to dry his feet with her hair!
The second couple went through a Betrothal to get to the marriage alter and then had a pretty non-traditional wedding, full of different symbolisms. It was interesting seeing the grooms' family especially (the Lindvalls), as my parents have heard Mr. Lindvall speak at a home school convention years ago and appreciated his message, so we have some of his tapes! But, back to the young couple...
The parents of this couple first received the impression that the young people were to be married, and then talked to their children about it. The young people prayed and felt that it was God's will too, so they got betrothed. My family & I were a little disappointed in their story, as it seemed like the young people didn't really have any attraction for each other and were just doing this because it was what they were supposed to do. Maybe I'm wrong, but I've always imagined that, even when the parents bring up the opinion that so and so could be your wife/husband, and the matter is prayed about and decided in the positive, that the young couple-to-be's hearts would be filled with love for this person they were to marry. It just didn't seem that the newly betrothed man and woman were even excited...
The 3rd couple were more liberal than I would wish to be--in the way they dressed and in being fine with going out on dates together and being alone down by the water-side in the dark, etc.... However, I really liked how the husband had prayed and prayed beforehand for direction in this area in his life. Also, the wife shared how God brought her to the realization (before marriage) that a husband would not fulfill everything she needed in life--that nobody but the Lord could fill the void she had in her heart!
Overall, I would recommend this film to others, as it was amazing to watch the different ways God brought the couples together--plus it can start great family discussions about your own beliefs and what basic pattern you all wish to follow in this area of life when you get to that point! I know everyone's story will be unique, as God is so creative, but it's good to have Biblical guidelines to go on....... The actual video quality was great and the songs were so lovely!
You can visit: http://www.tobeonevideo.com/ to purchase your own copy or to learn more.